The VFW in their corporate offices:
Guys, sorting through gifts.
One guy: “Let’s send Mary something different, what do you think she’d like?
Another guy: “How about a big calculator?”
One guy: “Nah, we sent her that a few months ago.”
Third guy: “She might like these socks.”
One guy: “She doesn’t really wear socks.”
Another guy: “How about these knit gloves? She could use those on chilly fall days.”
Third guy: “Yeah. Let’s send her two pair, blue and red, so she has back-up gloves.”
One guy: “Yeah.”
What can I say? The VFW and I are in a serious committed relationship.
They send me gloves. I send them money. They send me labels. I send them money. They send me greeting cards, tote bags, socks, hats, pens, calculators, shirts, I send them money. Whatever they want, I give them, because they give me so much in return.
It’s the most mature and reciprocal relationship I’ve ever been in.
I have had a deep reverential crush on the military ever since I was a young girl. Both my maternal and paternal grandfathers and great-grandfathers were in the military, as was my father. All of my brothers were involved in the military in some form, and my late brother William attended West Point and is interred at the local military cemetery. He fought in skirmishes all over the world, most notably in Desert Storm.
I plan to visit my college roommate for a week in Virginia after Easter, and I am also planning a side trip on the way home to pay my annual homage to one of my favorite places in the world.
Arlington National Cemetery and the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier.
What a humbling and awe-inspiring ceremony is the changing of the guards. I love when the relief commander conducts a detailed white-glove inspection of the M-14. I love when the commander and the Sentinels salute the Unknown Soldiers who have symbolically been given the Medal of Honor. I get goosebumps when the Sentinel executes a sharp “shoulder-arms” movement to place the weapon on the shoulder closest to the visitors, signifying that he or she stands between the Tomb and any possible threat.
I know it by heart.
We brought our boys to see the changing of the guard once, and the solemnity of the ceremony cowed even them. We never once had to tell them to be quiet and respectful, because the Tomb itself lends an air of reverence and awe that would normally only be found in the most venerated of places.
I remember standing behind the boys as they watched the ceremony. They were frozen, only their heads moving as they watched the guards. They didn’t budge. They didn’t speak. They looked like they were afraid to breathe, most likely because their father had threatened them with sure death if they did anything at all to embarrass him in this place that he loved. Even little boys know not to mess with Dad when he has that expression on his face.
He wasn’t fucking around.
The changing of the guard happens in an elaborate ceremony every hour on the hour from October 1 to March 31, and every half hour from April 1 to September 30. Twenty-four hours a day soldiers from the 3rd U.S. Infantry Regiment known as “The Old Guard” stand watch over the Tomb as they have every day since 1948.
When not marching, Tomb Guards, also known as Sentinels, spend their duty time in quarters below the Memorial Display Room of the Memorial Amphitheater, where they study cemetery history, clean their weapons and help the rest of their relief prepare for the changing of the guard.
Sentinel Facts:
- Being a Sentinel is a volunteer post
- Sentinels are considered the “elite of the elite” of the 3rd U.S. Infantry Regiment.
- Sentinels must be in superb physical condition
- Sentinels must possess an unblemished military record
- Sentinels must be between 5’10” and 6’4” for men, or 5’8” to 6’2” for women.
- Would-be Tomb Guards must undergo an interview and two-week trial.
- They must memorize seven pages of Arlington National Cemetery history, which must be recited verbatim in order to earn a “walk.”
- If a soldier passes, Sentinels learn the history of Arlington National Cemetery and the grave locations of nearly 300 veterans for their badge test.
- Sentinels must pass their badge test with at least 95% accuracy.
- As a badge holder, a Sentinel can serve honorably at the Tomb for nine months. At that time, the Sentinel can choose to have his or her award become permanent, which may be worn for the rest of a military career.
- Each relief of the guard has one commander and about six Sentinels. The three reliefs are organized by height so that those in each guard look similar in appearance.
- Sentinels wear the Army dress blue uniform, which is the style and color worn by soldiers during the late 1800’s.
- The Sentinels take twenty-one steps, alluding to the twenty-one gun salute, the highest honor given any military or foreign dignitary.
- On the 21st step, a Sentinel will turn and face the Tomb for 21 seconds. He will then turn to face back down the mat, change the weapon to the outside shoulder, mentally count off 21 seconds, then step off for another 21 step walk down the mat. Then he will face the Tomb at each end of the 21 step walk for 21 seconds. The Sentinel then repeats this over and over until the Guard Change ceremony begins.
- When a relief commander appears to announce the change, a new Sentinel leaves the Tomb Guard quarters and unlocks the bolt of his or her M-14 rifle. This signals that the ceremony should begin.
- Here is the dialogue of the Changing of the Guard:
Relief Commander orders the relieved Sentinel: “Pass on your orders.”
Current Sentinel commands, “Post and orders, remain as directed.”
Newly posted Sentinel replies, “Orders acknowledged.”
Hell, I don’t know what you’re doing for spring break. Probably Florida, or Hatteras, a fancy resort or some obscure island. We’ve all earned our down time this past year. But allow me to say this, and I don’t care how tired it sounds:
Never forget the men (boys!) who died to make it possible for you to enjoy such a life. And how lucky we are in the Northeast that visiting these heroes is only a short drive away. Maybe carve out some time to pay your respects. Grab the kids, pack some juices boxes and sammies, and make a day of it. Honor the heroes the way they deserve to be honored.
That’s the least they deserve.
https://www.arlingtoncemetery.mil/Explore/Tomb-of-the-Unknown-Soldier