Last week I found myself casually watching a muted music video on the big screen at the gym.
“I’m officially old,” I thought, as I watched skinny androgynous heavily-tattooed goth dancers writhe around a dance floor, the main female vocalist in a spiked leather jacket. The point of it confused me. But during my research on playlists, the video for the song “Gold” by Kiiara popped up, a new favorite song of mine on my playlist, and it was the same video from the gym. I was texting a friend this story, and conversation inevitably led to sexy playlists. I inquired:
Me: How do you decide if a song deserves to be on your sex playlist?
Her: If it gives me the urge to writhe around my bedroom in really expensive lingerie and high heels while doing sexy striptease.
Sounds ’bout right.
When we’re talking sexy playlists, we’re not referring to what a couple enjoys listening to during just the sex act itself. We’re also talking about what music is playing during drinks. During quiet personal conversation. Before, during AND after.
And obviously music that titillates one person could turn someone else cold. A metal head might like Iron Maiden in the bedroom, a jazz enthusiast John Coltrane. Maybe you’ve always been turned on by the soundtrack to “Chariots of Fire,” who knows? Musical taste in the bedroom runs the gamut. One friend I spoke to thinks music during a shag session is actually a distraction, making it difficult to relax and engage in conversation. Another likes the news on in the background, another baseball. Hey, to each his own.
My sex playlist has about fifty songs on it, so it was tough to narrow it down, but I think it’s a nice eclectic variety. More songs, many on the mellower side, are in Honorable Mentions at the bottom. I provide the videos not for the sake of exhibitionism, but for the same reason I enjoy theater, ballet, opera, and Broadway shows- while I attend to hear the music, it’s the costumes, makeup, hair and choreography that are the real show.
Songs for the Bedroom, and Not for Zzzz…..!!!
- “Gold” by Kiiara. Just such a sexy hot song, and super fun to listen to when working out or driving. It’s my newest favorite. Favorite lyric: “OOFIS-OY-LOIMEYLUVIN-OY-WUTCHASNOW.” Yeah, me either. Just enjoy it.
- “Paris” by Grace Potter and the Nocturnals. If this song doesn’t make you want to do a burlesque dance in fancy lingerie and get down to some naked fun, nothing will. Grace Potter just kicks ass, and this video is pure sexy woman power, for women who really do like to be sexy- it’s all about strength, beauty, intelligence, sexuality and vulnerability, all rolled into one. Just yum. Favorite lyric: “If I was a man I’d make my move, if I was a blade I’d shave you smooth, if I was a judge I’d break the law.” Way sexier in context, and if you watch nothing else on this post, please watch this sexy VID.
- “Make Me Feel” by Janelle Monae. Just plain fun, and great bedroom sound. Favorite lyric: “It’s like I’m powerful with a little bit of tender, an emotional, sexual bender, mess me up, yeah, but no one does it better. There’s nothin’ better.“
- “Or Nah” by Many Artists including The Weeknd. Warning: this song is very very very naughty, the lyrics bordering on pornographic. But it’s just so good. So so so good. No lyrics to post here, you can look ‘em up.
- “Earned It” by The Weeknd. Supposedly from “Fifty Shades of Grey,” although I refused to dignify the book or the movie with my presence. I didn’t get past the first dull contrived chapter of that book. I can write erotica better than that. But a beautiful haunting song, great mood-enhancer. Favorite lyric: “So I love when you call unexpected, ‘Cause I hate when the moment’s expected”
- “Lady Marmalade” by Christina Aguilera, Lil’Kim, Mya and Pink. Another great burlesque video of beautiful strong women, and a fun addition to any sexy playlist. Fun to, er, dance to. Favorite lyric: “Voulez-vous coucher avec moi, ce soir?
Voulez-vous coucher avec moi?”
- “Bang Bang” by Jessie, Ariana and Nicki. The meek need not apply for this one. This is a high energy song along with numbers 2, 3 and 6. Favorite lyric: “See anybody could be bad to you. You need a good girl to blow your mind…”
- “FutureSex/Love Sounds by JT. This song still so sexy, so hot and so relevant. Favorite lyric: “If you’re thinking about holding back, Don’t worry, girl, ‘Cause I’m gonna make it so easy, So slide a little bit closer to me, little girl, See, daddy’s on a mission to please.”
- “Fever” by Peggy Lee. It’s impossible to listen to this song without being mentally transported into a smoky jazz club, picturing the beautiful Peggy Lee snapping her fingers and just killing this jazz number. All about heat, and mystery and wanting someone you’re not sure you can have. Favorite lyrics: “Romeo loved Juliet, Juliet she felt the same, When he put his arms around he, He said, “Julie baby you’re my flame, Thou givest fever.”
- “So Into You” by Atlanta Rhythm Section. Ohhhhh, man, that achy feeling of trying to catch that hot person’s eye across the room. ARS captured it perfectly with this sexy song from 1976. The best lyric in this song is, well, every single word. One of my favorite all-time songs EVER.
I saved the best for last: the Joe Cocker video “You Can Leave Your Hat On” from my favorite movie “9 1/2 Weeks.” Just super fun and high energy, with the beautiful Kim Basinger.
Honorable Mentions:
- “Closer I Get To You” Roberta Flack
- Anything from Sade
- Certain songs by Norah Jones and John Legend
- “Your Body is a Wonderland” John Mayer
- Soundtrack to “9 1/2 Weeks”
- “Pony” by Ginowine
- “Confident” the Biebs
- “Sweat” by Zayn
- “Lovers” by Anna of the North
- “Hold” by Vera
- “Cherry Wine” by Hozier
- “Waiting Game” by Banks
- “Cola” by Lana Del Ray
- “Retroglade” by James Blake
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